Understanding Yourself: What Your Temperament Says About You

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We are all very different people, each with a unique temperament. It is often said that as our faces are different so are our hearts. It is not difficult then to see why different people act or respond differently given the same situation. Our actions are translations of the thoughts in our hearts.

Heart in the above expression can be equated with temperament. A person’s temperament is, in a strict sense, unique to them.

Temperament can be seen as the basic template with which a person is created. Everyone is created with certain tendencies, weaknesses, and natural strength. These are what constitute their temperament. It is part of what defines their personality and largely determines how they think, feel and behave.

Some people are born with natural tendencies for leadership, to be easygoing, jovial or easily angered, just to mention a few. These attributes make up the basic structure of their emotional makeup.

It is a reality that we all have the tendency to walk in the weakness of our personalities. Understanding our temperaments is a good step towards understanding ourselves. For when we understand who we are, we can then work on our weaknesses and fortify our strengths.

Also, when you understand yourself, you will appreciate yourself better. You can consciously make effort to fight all negative tendencies that makes up your personality. There is always room for growth and change in life, and that means everyone can become a better person.

Understand who you are. The result therefrom will impact positively on the people around. To motivate you, here is a list of how the knowledge of your temperament can help you:

  1. It can show you what type of person you are naturally inclined to marry.
  2. It can help you understand your strengths and witnesses
  3. It will help you understand, accept and flow with other people easily, especially your spouse.
  4. It will help you manage anger and to forgive people who hurt you.
  5. Also, knowing your temperament can make you appreciate yourself and be happy
  6. Lastly, it can help you focus your energy appropriately to overcome your weaknesses.

Now to help you understand what your temperament says about you, I present to you briefly the classification of temperament from the mouth of science:


A person of sanguine personality is characterized by confident optimism and cheerfulness. This person is always enthusiastic, active and social. For a sanguine, time alone – while sometimes desirable – can bore them quickly. They love enjoying live. A sanguine is a high-energy person with great degree of mental flexibility.

People of sanguine nature tend to be impulsive, spontaneous and curious people. If you are one, then you probably love words like “active”, “Adventure”, “New”, ” Travel”, “Now”, ” Energy” and similar. On the flip side, a sanguine doesn’t like commitment, can be unreliable and easily distracted. This is because everything catches his or her attention. When it comes to relationship, a sanguine may find it hard to keep to one partner.


A choleric is focused, direct, tough, analytical, logical and strategic. He or she is good at making decisions on the spot and can be bossy when it comes to leadership. People of choleric personality stick tenaciously to their goals and are self-motivated. They have a great deal of courage and like to compete often against each other.

If you are a choleric, then you likely love words like “challenge”, “ambition”, ” focus”, “intellect” and similar. On the flip side, a choleric may be short-tempered and easily moved to anger. A person of this personality can quickly take to kicking and smashing. They can also be unnecessarily strict and unsympathetic to others.


Melancholic people are the most emotional of all the temperaments. A person of this nature is analytical, wise and quiet. They tend to be calm, loyal, orderly, cautious and conventional. He or she pays attention to those things others prefer to ignore. They want to attend 100%, anything less is not good enough. A melancholic find it difficult to accept and give compliment to others. He or she is a perfectionist.

If you are of melancholic nature then your favorite words may include “moral”, ” family”, “caring”, ” respect”, “values” and the likes. A melancholy has a tendency to become dissatisfied, gloomy and depressed easily. Sadness lives closer to people of melancholic nature than the other temperaments.


Phlegmatic are defined by their social skills, such as ability to express themselves and read other people’s facial expression and body language. They are sympathetic, nurturing, agreeable and emotionally expressive. They are hardly confrontational, and easily apologize for doing something wrong to maintain peaceful and cordial atmosphere. A phlegmatic might be that man who leaves the decision to his wife. Or that woman who relies on whatever her spouse says.

If you are this type of person then you probably love words like “love”, ” passion”, “sweet”, ” sensitive” and the likes. A phlegmatic person may let go of their rights and be easily trampled upon. They are prone to be bullied or cheated.

So where do you think you belong? It is likely that your traits cuts across two or more temperaments. That’s often the case.

Remember I said earlier that in a strict sense a person’s temperament is unique to them. This is true as most people’s personalities are a blend of different temperaments. Your dominant traits then defines where you fall. The above classification serves well to explain the reality of varying personalities.

Very importantly, I want you to know that what your temperament says about you is not absolute. You have the inner power to recreate yourself; to expand within natural boundaries. By this I mean you can redefine your personality to a large extend.

Nature has provided a formula for this – it’s called character. Character is the tool given to you to customize yourself to your desired taste.

Through character you strengthen, weaken or balance your personality. How? Read the article titled Personality Modeling: Change Your Improve To Change Yourself.

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