What You Want versus What You Need

We all dream of a beautiful relationship, one we feel comfortable in and feel cared for. When you are in love, you make many demands or at least have some desires or expectations. First, you want to be loved in return. Then you want more. You want to be appreciated, respect, understood, listened to and so on. The problem is that sometimes we don’t get what we want or need simply because we don’t give. Loving has to be a mutual thing, we can’t deny that even for selfless love. The law of giving and receiving works fine too in relationships. When next you feel like you want this, what you really need is to give that. So if:

You want to be seen, what you need is to showcase them

You want to be appreciated, what you need is to be grateful for them

You want to be understood, what you need is to listen to them

You want to be cared for, what you need is to be there for them

You want to be respected, what you need is to regard them highly

You want to be remembered, what you need is to think about them

You want to be forgiven, what you need is to be committed

You want to be trusted, what you need is to be sincere to them

You want to be pleased, what you need is to be mindful of their needs

You want to be felt, what you need is to touch them

You want to receive, what you need is to give

You want to be encouraged, what you need is to support them

You want to be adored, what you need is to cherish them

You want to be loved, what you need is to love them

You want to be this, what you need is to be that to them

Selfless love should be mutual. So if you do what you need to do and you don’t get what you need, then they are probably wrong for you. Love is selfless but the one condition for being happily in love is mutuality.

Have a beautiful relationship!

Read Also: When you are in love

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